Helping Our Children With Ministerial Loneliness

lonely_0Proverbs 17:17 A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Loneliness is not confined to the ministry. Many are lonely today, and many children grow up in lonely situations, for many different reasons. The purpose of this post, however, is to give some insights into helping children deal with “ministerial loneliness” – ie, the kind of loneliness that comes because their parents are in the ministry (pastoral, missionary, evangelistic, etc) – though I believe that many of these suggestions would benefit any child.

In 1993, I surrendered to the ministry. Amanda Hudson married me in 1994, knowing that I was called to be a preacher. Therefore, it’s her own fault that she is a preacher’s wife (she actually loves being a preacher’s wife). Our first child came along in 1997, and now we have 4, the oldest of which will be heading off to Bible college at the end of the summer. None of them surrendered to be preacher’s kids; they were just born into a preacher’s household. Yet, we have never seen any unhappiness about it, and all four surrendered their lives to God at an early age and, as far as we can tell, are Continue reading

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Parents, Quit Embarrassing Yourselves

family0015Proverbs 10:1 A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.
Proverbs 17:25 A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him.

Recently I was sent a link to a YouTube video in which a father was going to teach his son the importance of work. The video certainly catches your attention, as Dad is sitting on a large zero-turn lawnmower about to drive over a large pile of video games, while his son (who looks to be in his late teens or twenties) yells in frustration.

It doesn’t take much imagination to figure out what is going on – the millennial-aged son would rather play video games and live in his parent’s house than go out and get a job and support himself, and so his dad is going to go “nuclear” and totally destroy the video game collection in order to change his son’s character. And of course someone has to video record it and post it for the whole world to see.

Of course, this video is not unique. Other videos have shown fed-up parents destroying computers, iPods, cell phones, etc – all to publicly “teach their kids a lesson.” People do love their drama.

What would be interesting is a viral video showing that these sorts of tactics ACTUALLY WORK.

Now, I have to admit that my reaction to these videos is a little different than the responses I have seen from those my age and older. Continue reading

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Just in Time for Christmas: The Church Planter’s Handbook

CPH Cover 1 FrontJust in time to order by Christmas, The Church Planter’s Handbook is now available in both paperback and eBook format.

From the Publisher website:

The Church Planter’s Handbook is a step-by-step guide to starting and establishing independent Baptist churches that are self-supporting, self-governing and self-propagating. 49 Chapters including: Where to Begin, Personal Preparation, A Two Year Plan, Raising Support, The Startup Fund, Needs and Wants, Starting with a Team, Finding a Meeting Place, Bank Accounts, Insurance, Building a Prospect List, Preparing for Guests, The First Year, Organizing, Tax Exemption, Incorporation, A Soul-winning Program, Ministries in a New Church, The Missions Program, Plugging People In, Handling the Finances, New Church Recordkeeping, Bank Financing, Developing Standards, New Church Growth, The Church Planter’s Family, Big Days and Special Days, Building Relationships, And more…

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2014 – It’s Been A Great Year!

It’s hard to believe that Thanksgiving is just around the corner and 2014 is almost in the record books. We’ve certainly had a great year at LBC with record attendances, souls saved, converts baptized and families added. God has been good to us. Below are some church and personal highlight pictures from this year.

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Article: Issues of Forgiveness – How To Handle Offenses

the-prodigal-son (1)In a previous article, we discussed the importance of repentance in regards to reconciliation and forgiveness. In this post, we are going to discuss how the Christian can scripturally handle offenses when they come. And they will come. Jesus told us so:

Luke 17:1 Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!

In a world full of sinners (including ourselves), all sorts of issues and stumbling blocks will be cast in our way. Some stumble over those offenses and end up out of church, out of the ministry, out of God’s will. Others stumble into a bitterness that poisons their lives. Some stumble into the dungeon of unforgiveness (see Mt. 18:34).

When we are offended, what scriptural options do we have?

I. We can PASS OVER IT. 

Proverbs 19:11 The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.

Some people live with a chip on their shoulder. And if no one knocks it off, they will do it themselves, and blame whoever happens to be nearby at the time. They are the stars of their own soap operas; drama queens who are constantly stirring up arguments, Continue reading

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Article: Why The Fire Just Won’t Go Out

KONICA MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERAJeremiah 20:7-10 O LORD, thou hast deceived me, and I was deceived: thou art stronger than I, and hast prevailed: I am in derision daily, every one mocketh me. (8) For since I spake, I cried out, I cried violence and spoil; because the word of the LORD was made a reproach unto me, and a derision, daily. (9) Then I said, I will not make mention of him, nor speak any more in his name. But his word was in mine heart as a burning fire shut up in my bones, and I was weary with forbearing, and I could not stay. (10) For I heard the defaming of many, fear on every side. Report, say they, and we will report it. All my familiars watched for my halting, saying, Peradventure he will be enticed, and we shall prevail against him, and we shall take our revenge on him.

The prophet Jeremiah had a tough, fifty-year ministry. Over the years, he saw the great spiritual reforms of Josiah disappear under the ungodly leadership of his successors, and then sat and wept as the nation was destroyed and carried off into Babylon. At one point – weary from being derided daily, mocked, persecuted, reproached, and defamed – the prophet decided to quit preaching. He determined that he would no longer make mention of the Lord or speak in His name.

But there was something in Jeremiah that would not allow him to be silent. There was a fire deep within that would not allow him to quit. This unquenchable fire was Continue reading

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Article: You Don’t Need A Jungle To Be A Missionary

Jungle-Forest-HD-Wallpapers-Photos-Download-WallpaperIn studying once again the missionary journeys of Paul for a series of sermons I am currently preaching, I have been reminded that Paul focused his ministry on the big cities of the Roman world. He seems to have been suited for urban life, as one who grew up in the cities of Tarsus (“no mean city” – Acts 21:39) and Jerusalem, where he sat at the feet of the great rabbi Gamaliel (Acts 22:3). In Acts 13, he was serving in the church of the great city of Antioch (the third largest city in the Roman empire, called “the Queen City”). In his missionary journeys, he invariably went to the great cities of the various provinces – Antioch of Pisidia, Iconium, Ephesus, Athens, Corinth, Berea, Rome, etc. Paul did not blaze a trail through the bush, as David Livingstone did in Africa; he traveled down cobblestone streets and great Roman highways. Yet he is our model missionary in the New Testament. The city churches that he established reached out into the entire region around them (see 1 Thess. 1:8).

Have you ever heard someone make a statement like this: “We had a missionary visit last Sunday who is going to England” (or France or Ireland or Bermuda or Hawaii, etc). “Boy, they are going to be suffering, huh?” Have you ever thought it yourself?

Sometimes Christians reflect the attitude that someone isn’t really a missionary unless it involves jungles, leeches, lions and at least the threat of dying from some exotic Continue reading

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